Self help

I really enjoy self help books. They are a very big part of my life. I don't know if you have ever read any, or used any. But, i will say that they are fabulous depending on the ones you get. And, you don't have to limit them to just psychology ones. You can even dabble into new age ones like i do. I really love books that have to do with astrology, and magic. books about nature. and the universe. I am an eclectic believer, I follow many religions and have many views. I have taken a very long time to accept, that i will never accept one path in life. There are many people in this world, and therefore many beliefs, in this world. And, I refuse to believe that only one way is right. If that were the case then we would all look, and speak the same, now wouldn't we? But, we don't and therefore, life just gets so more interesting doesn't it?  Once you can be accepting of this the world becomes so much more beautiful. and the things that used to worry you almost fade away. money is no longer more important then time. You will find that your job is not as important as spending quality time with those you love. You could lose your job tomorrow and be fine. Because, you can always get a new one. But, your child's first steps, words, and joys are irreplaceable. you can never get those things back. you can always get together with your family next year, that is true but, you are not promised tomorrow. so that aunt or cousin, even parents may no longer be there by the time 365 days roll back around. but, that promotion can be because your job is a system it is a plan it is a sequence in a large part of someone else's plan that can easily be replaced by a new one and often is so is it really worth missing out on what is truly important? this link leads to one of my favorite stories which i will also post bellow.  http://theburiedlife.tumblr.com/post/33811181290/a-professor-stood-before-his-philosophy-class-and 
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles roll

ed into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’
The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.The students laughed..
'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—-your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—-and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.. The sand is everything else—-the small stuff.
'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and mow the lawn.
Take care of the golf balls first—-the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.And, above all you need to remember "Take care of yourself first!" How are you supposed to take care of anyone, or anything if you are always warn down? Or, If you are constantly exhausted because, you are running yourself too thin. Trying to take care of family, friends, and your job. If you feel like you are being torn too many ways i really suggest that you step back. Take a minuet and then, tell your mother you can not talk every day. Tell your significant other to grab a cold shower every now and then. Above all back off at work on being everyone's go to person, learn how to say no. Even better, love the fact that you don't, and should not feel bad when you do. Or, if you miss that company picnic, or have to cancel on a friend. Because, either you just don't want to go. Or maybe you just feel too warn down. learn that it is okay, and quite healthy to do so!